Mom-E-votional : Double Standard for Eczema Kids Discipline

Eczema Kids Parenting Discipline

Do you apply double standard for your kids (with and without eczema)?

Eczema brings another dimension to parenting – above all the evolving best methods to parent, this can be overwhelming. As a mom of eczema child, I’d be the first to admit that I’m inadequate in many areas, from the top of my (already over-packed with to-do list!) head:

  1. More than half the time, I’m more concerned with whether my child scratches than whether she misbehaves.
  2. Having already exhausted much energy to take care of the skin, nagging, shouting and pleading ‘Not to Scratch’, on top of the usual on Mom-To-Do list like chores, meals (and the list goes on), I don’t really have much fuel left to discipline my child.
  3. It is ‘painful’ to disciple kids – you have to do it right, follow-through, not execute ‘punishment’ randomly, and make sure discipling kids does not become an avenue for anger venting.

And what happens for families with more than one child? Will parents inadvertently apply double standards for a child with eczema and one without? This reminds me of the many dilemmas that parents face daily but yet we try our best (within our limits!) to parent our children right. It is indeed a fine balance and I do pray that for all parents caring for more than one child, you will have the wisdom, energy and love to care for them.

Bible verse:

Proverbs 22:6 Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it all their lives.

Dear God, please help me to parent my child and to deposit the right values for her to be the child You desire her to be. I’m inadequate in so many areas, but I keep trying and have faith that where I fall short, You will take care of it.

Guard your mind and heart in parenting and disciplining your child.

(Video) Sun Protection for Kids – Sun Good or Bad?

This is the second of baby skincare series, which kickstart last week with Common Baby Rash.  I NEED YOUR SUPPORT, do subscribe to my EczemaBlues channel here. As I’m just starting out, and camera-shy, the video is my voice over slides that I prepared. Do share your comments pleeease on how I can improve them.

Now on sun protection, it is sadly not uncommon to see young babies being strolled into the hot sun and this is definitely NOT recommended as it is bad on so many levels, for the skin and also for the baby’s eyes which let in more harmful UV rays than adult’s.

To start with, the baby’s skin has less pigment cells and thus more vulnerable to the UV rays which penetrate and damage skin cells – resulting in sunburn and possibly, skin cancer over prolonged exposure. It is therefore important to take sun protection measures, and this ‘sunscreen’ tag link provides many expert tips on how to do so, including the choice of physical blockers for sunscreen and ingredients to avoid.

There is also much controversy on the benefit of sun for Vitamin D, BUT only 10-15 minutes is sufficient (the fairer the skin, the less time) and any longer sun exposure beyond that contributes to skin damage. Moreover, those with eczema flare-ups should avoid the sun as it can worsen the skin inflammation. Photo-therapy has to be prescribed (mainly for adults) and not the same as sun-tanning.

Do watch the video for more details and as always, appreciate you sharing your experience, thank you!

Video’s photo credit: photon bomb via Compfight cc

Life of Eczema Girl – What Love Sleeps Like

Eczema Parenting Love for Babies Children Preschooler

Ever wonder what your child will say to this question?

This is the 38th of my 2nd cartoon series, ‘LIFE OF AN ECZEMA GIRL’. For more cartoon in this series, check out here. Subscribe for blog post on top right and not miss next’s week cartoon, from mom’s POV (point of view)!

Mom-E-votional : More than Eczema Infectious

Eczema - infection - Physical and Emotional

Not just physical infection, Don’t let Bad feelings fester!

It is not uncommon for eczema on a child’s skin to get infected, in fact untreated eczema coupled with scratching can get infected easily. Particularly on eczema skin, bacteria colonization is common and staph bacteria, in particular, can lead to skin inflammation and renders less effective the treatment for your child’s skin. There are cases of severe infection, whereby it affects more than just the skin, but also leads to systematic infection causing low blood pressure or toxic shock syndrome.

This reminded me how easy it is not just for infection to spread, but also resentment and negativity. Given a chronic condition that is stressful to manage, there are many possible avenues for negativity to creep in. For instance, anger with spouse for not fully understanding the fatigue and care required for eczema child, or resentment over comments that insinuated you causing the eczema. Or it could simply be stressful parents, cranky eczema child and alternate caregivers all caught in 24/7 stress that leads to miscommunication and misunderstandings that linger and fester. Do read Psalm 55 for encouragement, and this bible verse may be comforting to you:

Bible verse:

Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.

Dear God, help us to be mindful of negative feelings in our heart. Blow them to the winds and take them far away. Help us to be joyful parents, forgiving others and be a blessing to our child, family and community.

Watch over Your Heart with all diligence

(Video) Common Baby Rash – Ok or Not?

First of all, I’m starting to incorporate videos into my blog, so that parents who are busy or who likes to view videos on Youtube can access to the vast skincare, nutrition and parenting tips for eczema families! I NEED YOUR SUPPORT, do subscribe to my EczemaBlues channel here. As I’m just starting out, and camera-shy, the video is my voice over slides that I prepared. Do share your comments pleeease on how I can improve them.

So, this video is part of baby skincare series, where the first thing to do is to recognize if the baby rash is one of those common ones which you needn’t be worried about, or eczema (which you have to be). Common baby rash are:

Baby acne – due to hormones and will clear on its own

Milia – due to trapped skin and will disappear on its own

No specific treatment needed for above, only gently cleanse the baby’s skin.

Heat rash – due to clogged pores as baby’s sweat glands are underdeveloped and occlusion from thick clothes and blanket can trigger the heat rash. Choose light clothing and don’t over-wrap the baby! Baby’s skin is not able to regulate body temperature as well as adult’s.

The other common rash is cradle cap, where you can find more in link here.

Diaper rash is also another common rash, which is a form of irritant contact dermatitis. Air the baby’s bottom, gentle cleanse it and choose a non-fragrance barrier cream.

Eczema is one of the common  baby rash (affects 20% of children) which is NOT OK to leave untreated, particularly if your child’s eczema is more than mild. I made the mistake of not recognizing it, and on hindsight, I ought to have known as my baby was twitching and trying to rub her face on the pillow.

Do watch the video for more details and a transcript is also included (in case you want to tune out my voice!). This is my very first skincare video, appreciate your comment, good and bad! Thank you!

EczemaBlues joining in #UBP14 Blog Party

Ultimate Blog Party 2014I’ve been participating in the ultimately blog party for two years, it’s simply a blog hop with loads of prizes and meeting new friends. Quite a few moms came to know of EczemaBlues last year, from seeing my blog on this party.

Check out the fabulous work that twin sisters @5MinutesforMom do, and join in the party!

Mom-E-votional : When Things get from Bad to Worse

Pressing Forward even when the road is difficult (for eczema)

Pressing Forward even when the road is difficult (for eczema)

Eczema is a skin condition that has its days of ups and downs – but there are certain days which seem to be only spiraling down. In the eczema support group sharing sessions that I hold monthly, the times when parents shared about how from bad to worse their child’s skin is getting were really sad – knowing that we as parents have done what we could, yet not knowing what else we could do.

This reminded me of Joseph, a man whose life was shared in bible (Genesis 37-50). Joseph had ensured many hardships and they just seemed to get worse.  He was betrayed by his brothers, separated from his father and sole to slavery. During this time, he was falsely accused, imprisoned, had hope of release from prison and had to wait another two years before his life turned for the better. Yet, when the very same brothers came to him for help during a famine later, he was able to say ‘And God sent me before you to preserve a posterity for you in the earth, and to save your lives by a great deliverance. So now it was not you who sent me here, but God; and He has made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of all his house, and a ruler throughout all the land of Egypt’ (Genesis 45:7-8). I’m reminded by Joseph to have a faith in life (things got better) and to have faith in God. I’m also reminded to forgive.

Bible verse:

Matthew 11:28-30

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. “Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls. “For My yoke is easy, and My load is light.”

Dear God, I pray that you help our family (parents and children) to have faith that the eczema will improve. We are tired from the demands of caring for eczema children, lighten our load, uplift our spirits.

Have Faith

Contact Dermatitis – Can a Child have Eczema and this?

Double whammy? Contact dermatitis in atopic dermatitis child

Double whammy? Contact dermatitis in atopic dermatitis child

Can my Child have both Atopic and Contact Dermatitis?

Contact dermatitis is more common in adults, but it is possible that a patient with atopic dermatitis also have contact dermatitis. The logic is that eczema skin barrier is defective, thus more vulnerable to hypersensitive reaction to chemicals. The chemicals which I’ve found from recent years’ studies which affect eczema patients (not necessarily children) more than non-eczema patients are

Surfactants cocamidopropyl betaine (CAPB), from AAD study. Also quaternium-15, imidazolidinyl urea, DMDM hydantoin, and 2-bromo-2-nitropropane-1,3-diol (from another AAD study)

How does dermatologist treat Contact Dermatitis?

The treatment is similar to atopic dermatitis, so in a sense it may not be as critical if the two cannot be differentiated. The difference is that without avoiding the substance that is causing the hypersensitive reaction, it is then not possible to keep it from causing the rash. Moisturizing, medicated cream, compresses to relieve itch and soothe skin, and antihistamines for reduced scratching at night may be prescribed.

In finding out which are the irritants involved in contact dermatitis, a patch test can be carried out (read more here). Patch test involves placing the suspected irritants/chemicals (note: there is a ‘science’ as to how much to put and how to prepare the liquid, don’t try to do this yourself) on paper tape on your child’s back or arm. The tape will be left on for about 48 hours and observation be noted by the dermatologist.

Is my child more likely to have contact dermatitis as an adult?

I haven’t come across such study, but it makes sense to figure out the irritants early and to avoid them. Also to treat the eczema promptly and take measure to protect the child’s skin barrier so that it is more robust against irritants when the child is older. (At the same time, I’m thinking she has got to fend for herself when old, I’m not going to say ‘Stop Scratching’ till I’m 60 year old!)

What are the preventive measures for contact dermatitis?

Avoidance is key, especially once you or your child has undergone patch testing and knows which substance triggers the hypersensitive reaction. There are common chemicals that are present in contact dermatitis in children (US), and these are nickel, neomycin, cobalt, fragrance, Myroxylon pereirae, gold, formaldehyde, lanolin/wool alcohols, thimerosal, and potassium dichromate. Also for those without any allergy, but has eczema (known as ‘intrinsic eczema’), this study suggest the possibility of nickel and cobalt allergy.

This study provides a percentage of common allergens for eczema children, nickel (16.3%), cobalt (6.9%), Kathon CG (5.4%), potassium dichromate (5.1%), fragrance mix (4.3%), and neomycin (4.3%).

The above chemical names may be too difficult to remember, so below is a compilation of where they may be commonly present in:

Soaps and detergents

Saliva

Urine (common cause of diaper rash)

Baby lotions, avoid perfume/fragrance products, preservatives

Latex, e.g. rubber products

We’ve covered the basics and the conclusion may be to be aware of contact dermatitis and promptly remove the suspected irritants. When the child is older, say 5 year old, bring him/her to a patch test.

Life of Eczema Girl – Gender Difference 2

Eczema cartoon on gender from toddler's view

Another gender difference! or is this just me stereotyping, drop a comment!

This is the 36th of my 2nd cartoon series, ‘LIFE OF AN ECZEMA GIRL’. For more cartoon in this series, check out here. Do you know man and woman scratch differently? See here.

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