Saying (or shouting) “Stop Scratching!” to your eczema child

Scratching Head at Night

Pause for a moment and think how many times you have said “Stop Scratching!” today. I used to keep saying that to my baby girl Marcie until I read that it is not the best way to get her to stop scratching. There’s little research done in this area available online, but supposedly, asking your child to stop doing something is less effective than rewarding him/her for not doing it. Also, it can annoy/upset your child to be told consistently to stop doing something that they can’t control. My own guess is that they are smart enough to know that scratching gets our attention and even do it more when throwing tantrum.

Here are a few tactics for teaching our children not to scratch that I read online, some which I use:

1.      Get your child to hold the itchy part tightly (supposed to help relieve some itch, but I don’t practise it as my baby is too young and likely result in her to focus more on the itchy part)

2.      Distract the child (that’s what I do all the time, check my post on keeping fingers busy, coloring and I also learn sign language with my baby. Sometimes, at night, when she scratches while trying to fall asleep, asking her to show me a sign works)

3.      Set up a reward chart with stickers to reward not scratching

4.      Try wearing eczema clothing (I haven’t tried this but a parent have recommended to me)

5.      Cut nails short (I haven’t cut Marcie’s nails for more than half a year cos she “files” them herself)

Of course, the eczema needs to be treated, do read my tips and Marcie’s doctor’s skincare tips.

What is most important to me is to stop remarking to my hubby that it is his bad gene and also to banish the words “bad skin”. I noticed that my baby scratches even when alone, as scratching feels good, so I am also very careful not to imply she’s doing it on purpose.

I have drawn a picture book (published as e-book, “A to Z Animals are not scratching!” to teach young children not to scratch and also starting a support group for moms (and dads) who need people to understand what we are going through (and hopefully, we can reduce the inadvertent “Stop Scratching!” to our children!).

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25 thoughts on “Saying (or shouting) “Stop Scratching!” to your eczema child

  1. I’m guilty of telling my toddler to stop scratching. Sometimes I think it’s just a habit of his now, so asking him to stop will make him realize he’s doing it. But maybe that’s silly. We tried the reward chart and it didn’t work for us. But, we used the distraction techniques and of course when he’s really itchy we cannot let him sleep without the ScratchMeNots or Kumfy Cotton clothing to cover his hands. There were many times he’d have to cover his hands during the day too, but thankfully those days have passed.

  2. I know! Until now I still can’t stop saying stop scratching, especially when my husband is busy (physically or deep in thoughts!) and I want to get my housework done.. and there Marcie is scratching and we can’t let her keep scratching. Thankfully, she doesn’t scratch as hard though when we neglect to actively distract her, there’s still patches of red scratch marks, usually along the diaper line.

  3. I was told by NC nurse Lim from KK to put the moisturizer / Calendula cream in the fridge, when my boy scratch, or during hot days, I applied the cream straight from the fridge, it cools him down and stops the itch. Hope it helps.

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  8. I used to say “STOP IT” but never works. She always scratch her cheek when I leave her alone for house works. Agree with you, now she understands she gets attention from scratching. Last weekend, I cleaned my kitchen. I have done my job (hooray!!). Her cheek was bleeding badly when I returned to her. (It made my heart broken). I promised (but not for the first or last time) it won’t happen again. Now, I started searching (before deciding cost effectiveness) learning materials to distract her.

    • TV? or lots of craft to do? I always have to check on her every 10 mins or so, just to make sure she’s not scratching, or peeling, or too close to TV!

      Ended up buying lots of activity books!

  9. Yes, Mei. You may think I am careless. I focus a lot on washing dishes and settling down things in the kitchen where we recently moved in.

    I want to ask suggestion from you. Her right cheek has very thin skin after flare-up. For the first time flare up, the skin broke and it is the very first and frequent site for following flare ups. What do you recommend to do?

    • Hi Tun,

      Oh! In no way I meant you are careless! Fully understand, we relocated from overseas to Singapore, then from Singapore mom’s home to my own when baby was one-month old, was on my own most of the time during the day, it’s not possible to check all the time on the baby! (I’m re-reading my comment above and I meant I always have to check on my baby)

      As for skin of cheek, if there’s active eczema flares all the time, you may want to check with pediatric dermatologist to get a medication similar to protopic that is non-steroidal and doesn’t thin skin, see

      Take care!

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  11. I love your blogg, it’s been very useful, thanks for sharing your experiences. We’re currently going through a hand, foot and mouth outbreak with antibiotics and a severe rash in my 17 month old. Your information and experience was a comfort.

    A few months ago I attended an eczema workshop for parents. The nurse running it told me to gently take his hand and teach him to tap the itchy area he was trying to scratch. Lately he has started tapping his arms, it’s not so easy in the neck creases, but it beats scratching!

    • Thanks Catherine for dropping by! And yes, tapping beats scratching! And your 17 month old is doing great for changing to tapping, mine is 4+ and still don’t quite tap. Sometimes she replaces with finger biting, which is worse cos she’s been having infection from mouth bacteria at her fingers!
      Hope the eczema improves for your son, take care!

  12. Thank you for developing your blog! My son is only 3 months old, and he keeps scratching around his eyes. Doctor prescribed Atopiclair for his eczema (which is amazing on his skin folds), but I am afraid to put it around his eyes. Instead, I put vitamin E oil on his eyelids to help ease the dry skin. I can’t tell him “don’t scratch” cos he can’t understand it yet and I can’t reward him yet, either! How can I help soothe his itchy eyelids? :(

    • I know the eyelid is a difficult place! I clean my child’s with lukewarm cotton pad and moisturize a little if really dry. Sometimes I bring her swimming, just to kill staph bacteria and have a fun cooling time. Other times, we entice with reward stickers and whatever tricks, carrots and sticks we can think of.

      Not sure if you’d find something that help here


  13. Hi guys, my daughter scratched a lot in the night and struggled to get any good quality sleep… I noticed you mentioned “Try wearing eczema clothing (I haven’t tried this but a parent have recommended to me)” .. this was recommended to me too and really helped, if anyone else is going through something similar with their children I recommend these…

    • Thanks for sharing :) For my daughter, it turned out that she likes to feel cool at night so most days she’s in light cotton pajamas. This photo of her is possibly the only time we put her in full body suit! It captures her scratching and we use it for my book cover at :)

  14. My wife and I have tried the reward method and it only works up until the reward is given. After we reward her, she will go and scratch her self raw. She has it from head to toe and it is very bad on her face. There are times when she has clear liquid running down her face, fingers, ears. It is killing my wife and I to keep up with it. My daughter doesn’t like lotion because they burn. I have tried pleading with her that if she stops it will get better and we can use the lotion. Every method is a fail. We almost feel that she needs to be in a tub with aloe vera and not get out until its all gone. We have tried just about every lotion, even for eczma, all the detergents for sensitive skin. Running out of ideas. The distracting doesn’t work because as soon as we are not looking, she scratches and peels layers of skin off.

    • Sorry to hear of how hard it is for you now John. It’s true though that the intense itch can’t be easily distracted from, so the priority is to get the eczema under control. The raw skin is a risk to secondary infection..quite easy to get other bacteria, fungus/yeast, viral infection.
      Wondering if you’re seeing pediatric derm? allergy testing, wet wrap, depending on the age – dust mite more likely for older kids, bedding washed in 60degC water… all tried?
      My child bites and peels fingers, but her eczema is well-controlled. Hope yours get better soon!

  15. John & Keyda, My son used to scratch patches of skin off too especially in his sleep and allergy testing didn’t reveal any food triggers. I put him on a combo of elimination diet & GAPS diet and discovered he can have goat milk but cow milk makes him bloody within days. Even cooking with butter makes him itchy and need areas bandaged. I used tea tree oil and cage put oil to prevent infections. Hope you find the true cause to end your child’s suffering too.

    • Thanks Rachel for your sharing! Yes, it’s strange, isn’t it? Why many parents report their child’s eczema improved after removing certain foods yet allergy testing doesn’t show. I’m wondering if it’s a case of food intolerance that may also affect skin.. you think? Thanks for your insight and have a lovely week ahead!

      • Yes Mei what I’ve been researching is how people (seems like more children than adults) can get this thing called “leaky gut syndrome” where larger proteins can pass through into the blood stream and cause different problems in different people. Actually eczema is one of the mildest symptoms of this disease. GAPS is a temporary diet to try to heal the leaky gut so the person can then eat more foods without reaction. Allergists only test for IgE antibodies because those are the ones that can cause wheezing, hives and anaphylaxis but we also have IgG and IgA antibodies that may be involved in eczema. It’s definitely inflammation in the deep skin layers and inflammation is an immune system reaction. If someone has antibodies to a food protein then those antibodies stick to the protein so immune system cells can find and try to get rid of them. So in my son’s case I wonder if his body deposits the cow milk protein/antibody/immune cells into the deep layers of his elbow skin causing him to feel itchy. Scratching it causes more inflammation and then the cycle begins. I believe they call IgG antibody reactions “food sensitivities” and things like lactose intolerance “food intolerance”

        • Thanks for sharing! Yes, I’ve heard of that too but did not find much literature on it. I believe in eating probiotics though.. it helped in eczema babies (and best when pregnant moms eat at 3rd trimester). In any case, it’s helpful to have more good bacteria :)

          IgG is still a subject that seems to divide nutritionist and allergist. I see many nutritionist mentioning IgG and how it affects their clients but the allergist community and supporting literature is that IgG is high if you take more of some foods and not related to immune reaction.

          Food intolerance to lactase can be tested :) It’s much less of a mystery than other possible food intolerances. See


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