From 27 to 29 September 2013, Rise and Shine Expo, an informative expo to raise happy and healthy children was held in Singapore. There were more than 100 seminars, workshops and trial classes held and I’m privileged to have the front seat to the workshop by Heidi Murkoff, titled ‘What to Expect in the First Year’.
Heidi Murkoff is the author of ‘What to Expect When You’re Expecting’, a book conceived during Heidi’s first pregnancy and her What to Expect series has since sold more than 34 million copies in US alone and published in over 30 languages. It has even been turned into a film, ‘What to Expect When You’re Expecting’, starring Cameron Diaz, Jennifer Lopez, Chris Rock, and Elizabeth Banks.
Last week, we’ve covered questions relating to questions raised by parents and today, we are covering the remaining baby Q&A raised during the Rise and Shine Expo.
Q5: How to select a good stroller?
Heidi: The right stroller is the one that best fits your needs. A travel system can be convenient, especially when the baby is young, but those strollers are often very heavy. If you’ll be doing a lot of stroller pushing, also make sure the one you choose folds up easily (particularly important if you’ll be in and out of the car with it or on and off trains and buses). And make sure the height of the stroller is comfortable for you to push. A good alternative to the stroller for shorter trips is a sling or other baby carrier, which allows you to go mainly hands-free and keeps baby snuggled close to you. Try before you buy, since every mom, dad, and baby is will find different models comfortable. And if you’re thinking about buying one while you’re expecting, be aware that your bump will definitely get in the way!.
Q6: What are the causes of colic?
Heidi: Colic is really a catch-all phrase that covers any kind of extended crying in a young baby. It’s usually defined loosely by the rule of 3’s: at least 3 hours of hard-to-console crying at least 3 days a week, starting at about 3 weeks and tapering off by 3 months – but of course, many babies cry much more than that. There are plenty of theories to explain colic, but the top ones are gas (babies have immature digestive systems, so gas happens…a lot) and overstimulation. Babies at 3 weeks lose the abillity to block out extraneous stimulus in their environment – so by the end of the day they’re often at stimulation overload, and just need to unwind with a good cry (and by good…of course I mean, long).
Q7: What about sex?
Heidi: The answer is YES. Staying intimate is one of the best ways, of ocurse, of staying connected – especially in that first year as parents, when there are so many baby-focused distractions. Try to remember that the most important relationship in your life, even once baby comes on the scene, is the one with your partner. Babies should and often do take priority, but try not to put your twosome on the back burner – be a couple, not just a couple of parents. A weekly or monthly date night, even if it’s just snuggles and movies on the sofa. Scheduling in sex – or being spontaneous (baby’s napping? Get busy!). And taking the time for quick hug or a kiss. When it does come to the main event, delivery can leave you quite sore, even if you didn’t tear or have stiches, and postpartum hormone changes can make your vagina uncomfortably dry. So make sure you get all the warming up you’ll need, and don’t skimp on the lube – use it liberally until your own juices are flowing again.
Q8: You have written “What to Expect when You’re Expecting” close to 30 years ago, has what to expect change?
Heidi: There is definitely a lot more information available now, and also more empowerment to women. Husbands and doctors now understand the role and importance of moms. Also parents can turn to online communities and social networks for support.
Thank you Heidi for helping so much for the past four weeks; as you all know, I’m passionate about childhood eczema and looking forward to have Heidi help parents, especially new moms with eczema babies.